It’s a beautiful morning

It’s a new week and I’ve decided I’m going to take on a new look at Monday. Yes I said that nasty word. My oldest child came down with the flu this morning and my knee is hurting me a lot today. Despite this, I refuse to be ungrateful for the day. It is so easy to look at the bad in your life and decide you’re having a bad day, month, year, life, ect. In truth, that is a very small part of your day or life. When you choose to look at your blessings instead, your outlook on your life will change. Hand your worries, your struggles and your pain over to God. Hit your knees and pray. A year ago if you would have asked me if I would be where I am today, I would have said not a chance.¬† My husband and I had filed for divorce, tension in our home was unbearable,¬† and our kids were miserable. It took a friend of ours forcing my husband into counseling, which I joined to help him, actually ended up saving our marriage. We were in the hands of a christian woman who wasn’t going to give up on us. At first it began with being assigned books to read, then it grew into us doing daily bible study together. Which grew into me beginning to blog so I could put what I was feeling into words. Eventually it grew into me writing my own scripture writing and bible studies, but most importantly it led to us finding a church to call home. During this journey I was led to branch out and start up my craft business, after a few months I have found my items that keep my order book full and it’s helped me to pay for Christmas this year. Christmas hasn’t been paid for with my paycheck in 8 years now (since our daughter was born). My husband also left the job he’s been at for several years, taking a few months off to stay home with us and help me get the business off the ground. Immediately after him leaving his job our marriage really shifted, he became more involved in our home and with the kids. He took a job doing what he loves and now we can’t imagine life any other way. It took a lot of praying, digging deep and soul searching, many tears, heart ache and more, but this past year I wouldn’t change for anything. I have my husband and best friend back, the man who I love to laugh with and spend every moment with. My kids are so happy and thriving, and they love going to Sunday School.¬† God doesn’t promise life will be easy, but he does promise he will be there with you through it all. As learned last week in the scripture writing, we are wonderfully made by a faithful God. We all have a special purpose, and we should be thankful under all circumstances.

This weeks Scripture Writing will be focused more on Moms.
December
10th- Galations 1:10
11th-Isaiah 40:30-31
12th- Proverbs 3:5-8
13th-1 John 3:1
14th- Matthew 5:44
15th- Matthew 5:16
16th-Deuteronomy 6:4-9

Reading- Deuteronomy 6

I am still looking at the possibility of beginning a facebook study group, if that is something you would be interested in please leave a comment below! Also find me on instagram #familynfaith Leave me a comment letting me know your a blog follower!

God Bless!

You Are Precious

So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.-(Genesis 1:27) This scripture is one that most of us heard growing up. Taught often in bible school and I’m sure we’ve heard a few sermons on it as well. Even as a young girl this began the questioning of what my value is as a woman. What is my purpose? What is Gods big plan for me? Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman’ because she was take from ‘man.'” This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united as one.-(Genesis 2:22-24) Now, I don’t know about you but for me this points out that women are valuable and have a great purpose. So often I hear that a woman’s purpose was for marriage, and while that is correct, that isn’t her sole purpose. She was made to serve her husband and God, but don’t forget that she was made also as someone to walk beside man in life’s battles. They are to watch each others back and support one another. You are a team, made for each other, both valuable. God has a wonderful purpose for us all. Even if you aren’t married there is still purpose for you.

God has a very high calling for women, we are very influential not only in our own home and family, but in other areas of the world as well. The way we carry ourselves impacts everyone we come in contact with. Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.-(Proverbs 31:10) I know as a wife I have wondered can I do better? Am I being the wife my husband needs and God wants me to be? Am I that virtuous and capable wife? In all honesty, I know there are areas I can improve on. It can be overwhelming looking at the standards of a biblical wife such as Proverbs 31, she sounds like perfection. It would be really easy to close the book and say well I’m trying so that’s all that matters. When in actuality we could sit down and have a one on one with God, ask him for guidance.¬† Don’t look at it as admitting defeat, look at it as self-improvement, giving glory to God and doing his work.

For the grace of God has been revealed, bringing salvation to all people. And we are instructed to turn from godless living and sinful pleasures. We should live in this evil world with wisdom, righteousness, and devotion to God, while we look forward with hope to that wonderful day when the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, will be revealed. He gave his life to free us from every kind of sin, to cleanse us, and to make us his very own people, totally committed to doing good deeds.-(Titus 2:11-15) I don’t know about you but asking God to help me become a better biblical woman and living a life for him giving him the glory, helping show others how wonderful it is to walk with him, that seems like a pretty valuable¬†calling. I will continue to ask God to guide me as a wife and mother, but also as a woman. Fully put my trust in him that he is walking with me on this journey, that he can use me for his purpose, to fill his calling. We as women have such an impact on those in our lives, lets ask God to help guide us so we live life with wisdom, righteousness and devotion to God.

May God bless you on your journey!

 

A New Direction

Here recently I felt the need to dig into what it truly means to be a biblical wife/mother. Everyday I’ve found new scripture, books, studies, ect. You name it I’ve come across it lately.¬†One verse has really stuck out to me and felt like it was leading me in a new direction. These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children.- (Titus 2:4)¬† I do feel like we need to share experiences and help guide each other. Our culture today has turned being a submissive biblical wife into something it is not.¬†So I have felt the need to share my journey into becoming a more biblical wife and mother.¬†If I can help even one other woman feel more confident as a wife and mother then it is all worth it. So make sure you follow me so you can see my new post, and feel free to comment, ask questions, let me know how I can help you, anything.¬†¬† So for today I will cut this short and begin planning a few more post.

God Bless and I’m so happy you’ve chosen to go on this journey with me!

Surround yourself

I sat here staring at this screen for far too long today, trying to decide what direction I was going to go in.  Same thing happens when I try to write a prayer for my family today. I know the general direction I want to go with it, but the actual journey just isn’t happening for me at the moment. I could take the easy way and just say forget it and walk away for the day. How how easy that would be, I could just go read a book or watch some tv. But I’m also leaving a crack open so Satan himself can slip in and much like this fly that keeps bouncing off my face, he is relentless and is waiting for that moment. Instead I reached out to someone, she’s also my accountability person. Did I do my daily writing, did I finish the daily bible reading (we are doing a 52 week plan to read the bible, so you don’t want to fall behind).
It’s important to surround yourself with people who support your journey with Christ. Who will battle with you when you need it and you will go to battle for. When my office moved downstairs much of my “War Room” didn’t make the journey. Leaving a desk upstairs in the corner that became a catch all. Yesterday, I decided it was time to take my War Room, or corner in my case, back. It’s time to fill my desk and wall back up with my battle plan.  I encourage everyone to do this, even if you don’t have an entire room to set aside for this. Find a area that you can comfortably sit and spend time with God, clear out any distractions. Turn off the tv, your phone, social media. Focus and meditate on what God is trying to tell you. If you need help getting started or you need a little help during your journey, call out to that accountability partner. We should all be supporting and helping each other. If you don’t have someone you can reach out to please feel free to contact me at familynfaithblog@gmail.com anytime. I’m always happy to help.

God Bless

Love is….messy

Honestly when I sat down to write tonight I wasn’t sure what I was going to write about. So I did what I often do when I’m at a crossroads. I pull out my devotionals and unwind first. Usually, inspiration then strikes. Just like it has tonight. Growing up we often dream of our future. You know, that one where you have the perfect house, perfect job, perfect family. It isn’t until you are much older and wiser that you realize that those perfect things you wanted, they take a lot of work. That perfect relationship started out like a fairy tale. Throw in a stressful career, a few kids, medical problems, and the day to day stresses…. You then end up wondering where that fairy tale went. It’s nothing like you dreamed about, frankly it’s much more chaotic and stressful.
After a while it takes a toll on the relationship. You begin wondering where things changed. Sometimes you need to take time to recharge and rekindle things. You need to be open and honest about your feelings, and an effort has to be made to bring back that fairy tale. The truth is, love is work. It’s messy and frustrating sometimes, but it’s also a beautiful thing. In two days I celebrate 8 years of marriage (10 years together) with an amazing man. A man that works hard every single day to make sure our family has everything we need. Things aren’t always rainbows and butterflies, honestly at times it’s been tough. But I’ve also realized that I wouldn’t want to go through life without him. Recently my brother told me that he looks at my marriage and hopes to be as lucky as I am, his goal is to have a love like I do. That meant a lot to me. We came from a broken home, and unfortunately I went through parents divorcing more than once. So for me to be that role model for my brother was an honor. It also reminded me how much your parents relationship changes your views on relationships. I want my children to see firsthand what love is. I have been very blessed with my husband. He’s been there through my medical issues, gotten me through some tough family issues, and was by my side as we watched our twins struggle because they were born 9 weeks early. So before I close I want to tell my husband: I love you and thank you for sticking by my side even through the darkest of days.

Raising Royalty

A while back I began realizing that in order to be a good parent that I needed guidance. Now, I’m not as familiar with the bible as I would like to be, and that is still currently a work in progress for me. Since I completely adore Priscilla Shirer I thought she would be a good place to start looking, which led me to her Father, Tony Evans. He has a series that is based around becoming a Kingdom family. My husband and I got the Kingdom Man and Kingdom Women books for eachother for Christmas (along with the Resolutions for Men and Resolutions for Women, also written by Tony Evans and Priscilla Shirer), and we have the Kingdom Marriage Devotional. I soon hope to order the Kingdom Marriage book but all this led to my ordering Raising Kingdom Kids. I’m only through 4 chapters of this book and there is already so many things that I’ve jotted down and we have started implementing in our home. It is far easier to shape a child than to repair an adult. The best way to teach our children is to lead by example, lets face it, children often don’t listen to what they are being told. Instead they repeat what they see. Raising a Prince or Princess of God’s Kingdom has to start with you and the example you set. You also cannot rely on others to be the sole guidance spiritually for your children. Read Deuteronomy 6 if you need to know who is supposed to do the guiding. You home should be the main place of spiritual development, for both your children and your self. You should teach them daily about God’s word. As Tony Evans says, Kingdom Parenting isn’t perfect parenting, Kingdom parenting is purposeful parenting. If you start your children off on a good foundation of faith, then as they grow older they will continue this path (Proverbs 22:6). You also¬†need to make sure that you have a strong marriage so you can guide your children. When your marriage is weak you often start to look to others to help you teach your children. Working on your marriage, even if you already feel it is strong, can only help improve your life as a family. As parents we have to make sure to make a priority of 2 relationships. The first one is the most important one, our relationship with God, remember he’s your One. The second is the two that you seek your One with, your spouse. These relationships need to be strong so that you can guide your children. Teach your children to be kingdom¬†children and how to have healthy relationships.¬†As a wife, submit and let your husband lead your home. (Now I know many people get instantly in a huff when they hear the wife submitting to the husband, make sure you fully understand what that means biblically before you turn your nose toward it. This does not give your husband permission to control you in any way, and does not mean you cannot have a voice in your home.) As a husband stand up and lead your¬†family, just as Christ leads the church. For any family, even if you do not have children yet, I highly recommend you invest in the Kingdom Series by Tony Evans. These are great resources from a Kingdom father, husband and preacher.
Before I end this I also want to recommend one more thing, actually writing down ground rules for your family. Make sure everything is in black and white so their is never a question. Also begin setting aside time every single day for time as a family and always eat as a family.
I recently came across a woman that could not afford a book that she felt would save her marriage, I tried reaching out to her offering her help but never could get a reply. This led to many prayers on the matter, I have some books that I believe are very beneficial in building your marriage back. If there is anyone who is in need of help in their marriage and feels like there is simply no hope please send me an email at familynfaithblog@gmail.com I have a few books I would recommend and may still possibly have some that I could mail to you.

God Bless

New Year, Better you

This time of year I often hear people setting their New Years resolutions, and it has really made me think this year.
Some of the more common I have heard:
*I’m going to lose x amount of weight
* I’m going to eat better
*I’ll go to the gym
*I won’t drink so much
*I’m giving up pop
The list just continues to go on, but one thing I’ve realized is I never hear, I will grow closer to God. I will read my bible everyday, I will pray every day. Most people I’m sure would say they could improve their relationship with the Lord somehow. I’m not saying you should make these your New Years resolutions, lets face it most of those are forgotten about in a week. Instead make¬†a promise. Sit down and pray for guidance, let God lead you to what you need to do to grow closer to him. I personally do have my favorites, and maybe they can help inspire you too.

1. Bible Reading:
I find it relaxing to sit down with a cup of coffee and my Bible. What better way to become closer to the Lord than by reading the book that is here to Guide you through everything in Life! I also prefer to have more than one version with me when reading. I like to read the NIV Bible, but when something sticks out to me I also go and re-read it in my KJV. I mark scripture in both bibles and write little notes. Even if it’s just a few minutes a day, pick up your bible, I bet it makes your day better too.

2. Bible Study:
You can participate in a Bible Study in many ways. There are often groups available at your church, you can order individual studies, or you can participate in online studies. The current Bible Study I’m doing is the book of Ephesians, however next week we will start the Present over Perfect study, this is a dvd/study guide package. If you would like to join us you can go to my home page for the link to purchase this. I try to keep the studies affordable, and will bounce between ordering materials or picking a book in the bible and studying it daily.

3. Reading:
I love to read, which is also why I offer reviews on here. I read a lot of Christian books that are Fiction, Lifestyle books, Parenting, Marriage, and family books. Tony Evans, Pricilla Shirer, and Stormie Omartian ¬†are a few of my favorites when it comes to Christian marriage, parenting and family books. My husband and I have recently started the Kingdom series by Tony Evans. We have the couples devotional, Kingdom¬†Man and Woman, Raising Kingdom Kids and The Resolutions for both Men and Women. I will admit this is also why I haven’t been putting out reviews almost daily,¬†I am currently reading at least 2 books at a time. For those of you that travel for work, I would suggest getting audio books to listen to in the car.

4. Devotionals
A daily devotional is a great way to get the good word and doesn’t take much time. If you are married I would suggest a couples devotional. We really like the Kingdom¬†Marriage, it has a ¬†very short daily passage and then follows up with 3 questions for you and your spouse to answer. Quiet times for couples is another favorite of ours, and we recently received the Love Dare devotional so we are excited to begin that one too. My husband enjoys the Duck Commander devotional and my daughter likes her 3 Minute Devotional for little girls. I personally use the Daily Wisdom for Women everyday in addition to my couples devotionals.

My point is that there isn’t one set way to do a little more. Without my faith I’m not sure how I would have gotten through the holidays. I used to shut down when grieving. I’m not saying that the depression didn’t creep in and make me want to crawl in a hole, it did. But I prayed, over and over, for strength and peace. I knew I needed to be there for others as well and we needed to lean on each other. My husband played a big roll in helping me through it. He dropped everything and stayed with me, he prayed with me, and was there when I needed to just cry. ¬†1 Corinthians 13:2 really stood out to me ( If I have the gift of prophesy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. ) Without love you truly have nothing, and one thing that I realized I am truly blessed with is the ability to love so many people and have so many people who love me. Love and the Lord ¬†is what got me through the holidays this year. If that’s not blessed then I don’t know what is.

God Bless and travel safely home!