I failed my child

I’ve debated on whether or not I was going to share this, but at the same time I want to be honest and open with everyone. Then I came to the realization that there are others in my shoes as well, maybe I can learn from you. My daughter, age 8, was diagnosed with depression and anxiety yesterday. After exhausting every option I could think of over the last year, I decided to turn to our doctor for help and guidance. I myself have battled this over half of my life, likely longer but it wasn’t until I was in middle school I actually got help for this. I feel like I failed her, is there more I could have done? Did I not do something, am I not doing enough? Should I have gotten her help sooner?

She is a beautiful, intelligent, kind little girl with big dreams of Harvard someday. She isn’t one to ever be unkind to others, yet finds it hard to find friends. We try to reassure her that having one best friend is better than ten fake friends, but it still deeply hurts her when someone doesn’t want to be her friend or she feels like they don’t want to be. I’m just not sure how to help her or be there for her. If anyone has any suggestions or is in a similar situation please feel free to reach out to me, if you prefer to do it privately you an email me at familynfaithblog@gmail.com

Thanks for being my ear to listen today, God Bless!

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I cover myself in Glitter

It’s everywhere. I’m pretty sure there isn’t a part of my house that is free of glitter anymore. I’m often covered head to toe, and had glitter in my hair before it became the odd trend that it has. I don’t actually mean for it to, but it has a way of just sticking to everything. A year ago I began my journey with FamilyNFaith, as both a blog and a business. For the most part I’ve kept them separate, but I’m starting to think that I should offer a few of my items online as well. img_0489

Outside of the the obvious reason of extra income, I began my business because I want to be able to help others too. Thanks to the custom tumblers our family has been able to help several others over the months, and hope to double that in 2018.  God has blessed our family with this wonderful opportunity and I know he will continue to guide us. Later this week I plan to launch our shop on this site, make sure you follow FamilyNFaith to stay up to date on new products. You can also see new products on instagram following ashley.k.herr or hashtag #familynfaith or join our facebook shop.  We do custom orders but there is usually a month or more wait list due to high volume of orders. faith over fear

If there are any designs you would like to see comment below and I will see what I can come up with! Thanks for your support and God Bless!

 

Food for the soul

When your hair can form icicles it is just too darn cold to do anything. I would rather crawl up with a book, blanket and coffee forgetting that the hair on my legs (hey its cold, cut me a break) could cut someone thanks to the goosebumps. When it’s cold there is always those foods that you instantly think of. For me its two things, Biscuits and gravy, or chili and cinnamon rolls.
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Of course you can use canned biscuits but nothing is better than homemade. I’ll make sure you include a copy of the recipe I use at the bottom. Growing up I honestly thought everyone knew you eat cinnamon rolls with your chili. It wasn’t until  I was married and my in-laws from outside of Kansas pointed out that this actually wasn’t a well known thing.  Nothing is better than some chili with homemade cinnamon rolls, it warms you down to your soul.  Make your chili, if you need a recipe just say so I’ll send you mine,  add a little sour cream and shredded cheese on top. Take a bite of your chili, then a bite of your cinnamon roll. I promise you won’t regret it. You can even crock pot your chili so you can come home to a warm meal, if you don’t have a crock pot you really need to get one! Crock pot, cast iron skillet, and a coffee maker are three things I just couldn’t go without. My kitchen aid mixer isn’t far behind on that list though, homemade noodles are amazing.

Despite that I’m more of a baker than a cook, I do love being in the kitchen and making meals that will bring my family together. I’ve been tossing around sharing some of these recipes and even trying out recipes suggested to me. I would love to try out something new! I will warn you I am not a fish eater though, I have texture aversions and fish just don’t mix with that.  Now that I’m nice and hungry though I think I will be making another cup of coffee and making some cinnamon rolls and chili!

Stay warm and God Bless!

1, 2, 3….let’s hibernate

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Woke up this morning to school being delayed and visibility being really low.  I laid in bed for another hour waking up to everything being calm, barely any snow at all on the ground. I don’t do cold, I’m more of the hibernate during winter kind of person. Which also makes being motivated pretty much non existent. It takes me forever to actually begin working, I mean it’s not like I’m going to fire myself!

So I realized maybe I need to begin making an actual plan. I’m a planner or a list maker. I feel like it keeps me organized and on track, so why am I not implementing this in my business? So I grabbed my life line aka my planner and decided it’s time to start scheduling my days. I use my planner all day everyday, its what I use to keep my orders in. On the monthly calendar I write my appointments, the verse I’m supposed to scripture write for the day, my kids school things, and other important things I need to get done that month. Then I have weekly pages that have individual days schedules. This is where I write my orders, because I know how many orders I can complete in a weeks time.  It also helps me know how far out my wait list currently is. I began writing in exercise (boy have a slacked here in the last few months), my daily studies, blog work, and my water intake. I seem to stick to things better when I can do them and cross them off a list, it somehow motivates me oddly enough. Maybe its the organization of it, makes you feel like you kind of have your stuff together.

I have without a doubt been more successful when I actually operate on a routine and stick to a schedule. I’m actually productive instead of just being busy. I also find that when I’m exercising in the morning some of my best ideas hit me. Maybe it’s because I’m at peace and not so stressed, or because that is often my alone time I spend really talking to God. It helps me to remember who is responsible for my success, without God I know I wouldn’t be where I am. I wouldn’t be doing what I love, and have the opportunity to share his glory with others. So as much as I really want to hibernate, instead I will stick to my schedule and continue to thank the good lord for providing this opportunity for me.

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God Bless and stay warm!

Set your Goals high

There is just something about the words New Years Resolutions that rub me the wrong way. Maybe because they often seem to be half hearted promises, and by February most people completely forget them.  I’m a list maker, setting goals I can check off my list. I also like to dig a little deeper than the obvious things I need to change. Do I need to eat better, of course I do. Do I need to exercise more? Of course, it has been replaced with work over the last few months.

This year I want to continue to grow closer as a family. We have movie and game nights, go for walks on nice nights already but I want to sit down with the kids and see if they think we can improve anywhere. Maybe they have a list of things they would like to do this year as a family.  I also want to finish reading the Bible, I began but found it hard to get through the first few books of the bible, so I did some looking and found a guideline  helping you figure out in what order you should read all of the books. It has helped a lot and I’ve already begun reading more. I also need to become more faithful in my scripture writing.

Helping others through my business, FamilyNFaith is definitely a bigger goal for the year. I’ve continually felt the need to go on a mission trip in the last few weeks. Research has begun and I’m trying to see when my husband and I can do this in 2018, I hope to make this a yearly thing.  I’m hoping this is something the kids will be interested in doing as well. I want to sponsor another child this year as well and donate to different charities.

What are your goals for 2018? I’d love to hear them!
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Stay safe tonight, Happy New Year and God Bless!

It’s a beautiful morning

It’s a new week and I’ve decided I’m going to take on a new look at Monday. Yes I said that nasty word. My oldest child came down with the flu this morning and my knee is hurting me a lot today. Despite this, I refuse to be ungrateful for the day. It is so easy to look at the bad in your life and decide you’re having a bad day, month, year, life, ect. In truth, that is a very small part of your day or life. When you choose to look at your blessings instead, your outlook on your life will change. Hand your worries, your struggles and your pain over to God. Hit your knees and pray. A year ago if you would have asked me if I would be where I am today, I would have said not a chance.  My husband and I had filed for divorce, tension in our home was unbearable,  and our kids were miserable. It took a friend of ours forcing my husband into counseling, which I joined to help him, actually ended up saving our marriage. We were in the hands of a christian woman who wasn’t going to give up on us. At first it began with being assigned books to read, then it grew into us doing daily bible study together. Which grew into me beginning to blog so I could put what I was feeling into words. Eventually it grew into me writing my own scripture writing and bible studies, but most importantly it led to us finding a church to call home. During this journey I was led to branch out and start up my craft business, after a few months I have found my items that keep my order book full and it’s helped me to pay for Christmas this year. Christmas hasn’t been paid for with my paycheck in 8 years now (since our daughter was born). My husband also left the job he’s been at for several years, taking a few months off to stay home with us and help me get the business off the ground. Immediately after him leaving his job our marriage really shifted, he became more involved in our home and with the kids. He took a job doing what he loves and now we can’t imagine life any other way. It took a lot of praying, digging deep and soul searching, many tears, heart ache and more, but this past year I wouldn’t change for anything. I have my husband and best friend back, the man who I love to laugh with and spend every moment with. My kids are so happy and thriving, and they love going to Sunday School.  God doesn’t promise life will be easy, but he does promise he will be there with you through it all. As learned last week in the scripture writing, we are wonderfully made by a faithful God. We all have a special purpose, and we should be thankful under all circumstances.

This weeks Scripture Writing will be focused more on Moms.
December
10th- Galations 1:10
11th-Isaiah 40:30-31
12th- Proverbs 3:5-8
13th-1 John 3:1
14th- Matthew 5:44
15th- Matthew 5:16
16th-Deuteronomy 6:4-9

Reading- Deuteronomy 6

I am still looking at the possibility of beginning a facebook study group, if that is something you would be interested in please leave a comment below! Also find me on instagram #familynfaith Leave me a comment letting me know your a blog follower!

God Bless!

Fresh Book Smell

Last night I was looking at my email and one of my favorite book stores had sent me an ad. After I looked through it I realized the only ones that interested me were ones I already had but haven’t gotten around to reading yet. I have two bookshelves overly filled with books, I mean I have books lined up nicely with books stacked on top of those book. In some places I also have another row in front of them. I’m the kind of person that prefers an actual book in my hand that I can touch and smell, not that I don’t occasionally read on my kindle. I just prefer a paperback.

I’m also the type that finishes one book and then gets five more to add to my list. So I decided this morning to go through my bookshelf, writing down all of the books I haven’t gotten to yet or have partially read. After these I added to them my yearly reads, you know those series that you love and read at least once a year. Okay, that might just be a bibliophile problem. You have to re-read the series though because there is a good chance that a new book for that series was released through the year. Two pages later and 77 book written down I sadly wrote Reading list for 2018 on the top. I assure you I’m happy I have 77 unread books or books to be re-read on my shelves, but I’m sad because I will likely be through this list by Spring. Which also means I will be storing those ones that my heart doesn’t scream I must read again. Of these books usually friends or family go through and take what they would like and we often swap books that we don’t want to hang on to.

This list is different from my past list though, this one actually holds more than fiction. This time I have several self improvement, christian living, business,  parenting, marriage, and lifestyle books. Most importantly my number one book on the list, The Bible. Now this is something that I actually began a few weeks ago, and I read some nightly. I know this will take me months to actually accomplish, but I’ve never been so eager to read a book in my life.

In case you are looking for a few suggestions I highly suggest picking up any book from Priscilla Shirer, Tony Evans or Joyce Meyers.

As much as I could carry on about books all day long, I better cut this short because I’m sure my children would like a warm ride home from school. I look forward to posting some new book reviews in the future though!

God Bless!

 

This mom is Batman

Why is it that children have to test your every nerve? They want to toe that line with seeing how far they can push before mommy loses it completely and brings out the Batman voice? You know the voice, the one where it drops several octaves and your children finally pay attention. It’s also the voice you want to bring out when people tell you they always wanted twins, it must be so much fun. Coming from a mom of twin boys, as much as I love my children, I would describe it as being a walk in the park….Jurassic Park.

My daughter is now at the age where she is in between. Intellectually she is about two years above her fellow classmates, which leaves her relating to kids older than she is. She’s in that in between of no longer being a little girl but not quite at that pre-teen phase. Which also leads to her being frustrated and often throwing attitude around. We seem to butt heads more often than get along here lately, which leaves me dreading the teen years. I’m trying to not smother her and try to fix things because ultimately finding herself in this new phase of life is up to her and her alone. I will be here to guide her, and pray she continues to grow in her faith and stay the kind, responsible girl she has always been, but I also remember how cruel kids can be. Especially in the upper grade school/ middle school ages.

I often struggle with that balance of am I being too hard on them or am I not being hard enough. You want your child to grow up with manners, well behaved and responsible. We are no longer in the world that it’s safe to send your kids outside to play. Which also means while I’m attempting to clean I have fighting children running around me asking for a snack every few minutes. I have a stack of books on parenting as a Christian, and  I’m slowly making my way through the stack. Maybe with my two week break from work over the holidays I’ll sit down and make a list of the books I want to get read and begin checking them off the list. Work hasn’t left much room for reading anything other than things for work or research so I think it’s time to start making time for pleasure reading again, maybe I wouldn’t be so stressed and become Batman so much then…..

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God Bless!

December Study

This month I’m going to try something new. I’ve done weekly writing and reading plans so they can be used as a short study. I will post the plans at the beginning of the week and closer to the end of the week I will write a short recap over that plan. The focus of these will be for the different roles in your life, geared more towards women but if there is any men that would like this I would gladly do a plan for men too.

Week ones plan is focused on being a Godly Woman. This week is for the 1st through the 9th ( I apologize for being a day late).

The writing plan:
1st- Romans 8:28
2nd- Romans 8:38-39
3rd- Matthew 6:33
4th- Hebrews 13:2
5th- 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
6th-Psalms 139:14
7th- Proverbs 21:21
8th- Job 22:21
9th-Luke 16:10

The reading passage is Proverbs 31

I hope you enjoy these scriptures and I look forward to reflecting on these at the end of the week.

God Bless!

This month I’m going to try something new. I’ve done weekly writing and reading plans so they can be used as a short study. I will post the plans at the beginning of the week and closer to the end of the week I will write a short recap over that plan. The focus of these will be for the different roles in your life, geared more towards women but if there is any men that would like this I would gladly do a plan for men too.

Week ones plan is focused on being a Godly Woman. This week is for the 1st through the 9th ( I apologize for being a day late).

The writing plan:
1st- Romans 8:28
2nd- Romans 8:38-39
3rd- Matthew 6:33
4th- Hebrews 13:2
5th- 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
6th-Psalms 139:14
7th- Proverbs 21:21
8th- Job 22:21
9th-Luke 16:10

The reading passage is Proverbs 31

I hope you enjoy these scriptures and I look forward to reflecting on these at the end of the week.

God Bless!

After sending my children off to school in the morning, I usually take a few moments and enjoy a cup of coffee. Those with small children know what a luxury it is to actually enjoy a warm cup of coffee. Not one you’ve reheated several times already and it’s cold yet again. This morning as I sipped my coffee I began looking at my list of orders I currently have, supplies I need to order, and the cold medicine I need to take yet again. Now I’m not sure if it’s because my children have been taking turns being sick for weeks, that it hit me this time and I feel like I was hit by a bus, or that I’m just burnt out. I love my job, I truly do, but I feel like my passion is fading. Part of why I’ve loved my job is because it was something different every day, I could be creative. Here lately though I seem to have lost that spark. The weather changing has caused road blocks at every turn, I can’t paint or it’s too cold and things are setting up correctly. My computer isn’t acting right and my software continues to shut down every few minutes. It’s difficult to not become discouraged when it seems like everything is going wrong. It would be quite easy to just give up and move on. But instead I am going to take my medicine, jump in a hot shower to so I can breathe, then I am going to hand it all over to God because I know he will guide me in what I need to do. I’m going to work the next couple of hours while my kids are in school, this afternoon spend some time trying to repair my computer, and this weekend I will get all the things prepared that I need to so that I can have a productive and good work week next week. Instead of throwing in the towel, I’m going to find a way to renew my passion. I know it is in there, I just need to have faith.

So tell me, how do you keep from being burnt out?