Koolaid and Judgment

I’ve started this post at least 4 different times today, unsure of what I wanted to write. It wasn’t until I became bombarded for allowing my 8 year old to have red hair that something really stood out to me. I was born in the 80’s so growing up I did the koolaid hair coloring and sun in. Not really sure why I did the sun in considering I was already blonde but hey everyone else was smelling like a lemon so I decided to join them apparently. So when my 8 year old began begging for me to color her beautiful blonde hair I pulled out my childhood less damaging option. Also being a female myself I remember how indecisive I was at her age and that once the color went out she may actually decide she wanted a different, so temporary was a much better option for us. There also isn’t the chance of burning her scalp or the allergic reaction like with a hair dye. The biggest concern seemed to be “what if it doesn’t wash out quickly?” Well for one I hope it doesn’t because it did take a while to do and that would be a waste if it washed out the next day.  You can also use a vinegar/baking soda rinse and it should help lift the color.



My thing is its just hair, so why does anyone else feel like they need to ruin what has made my child extremely happy. It in no way was bringing harm to her, so why does it really matter? Especially to people who don’t even personally know me they just follow my business page. It may not be for everyone, I get that, so don’t do it or let your children do it. But it has absolutely no impact on your life so why not just scroll on past? Have we become a society that is so desperate for drama and entertainment that we consistently have to create it and attack others? I truly do not understand this, I live by the not my body or doing harm to someone else then it’s none of my business. It may not be my thing, but it doesn’t mean I won’t support that person in doing what is making them happy.


So if you’d like to try out the Koolaid Hair Dye all you have to do is mix 2 Cups Water with 2 Unsweetened Koolaid packets. Mix them in a saucepan and bring it to a boil. Once those cool pour into a glass or bowl so you can dip the hair for a few minutes. Let your hair completely dry before you try to rinse it otherwise the color isn’t going to stay well. I’ve heard you can also mix the Koolaid with conditioner and rub it in like a cream but it’s not something I’ve ever tried so I can’t tell you how well that works.

What non hair dye ways have you colored your hair? Let me know in the comments!

God Bless!


The Homeschooling Adventure

I’m not the type to jump off a cliff and I hope I fly, I’m the research thoroughly and make a well thought out decision type. So when we decided to pull my daughter from public school and begin homeschooling all within three days my anxiety was through the roof. I’ve never looked at homeschooling before, where do I find what I need? I spent day and night researching and trying to find the right fit for my daughter. If you are looking at beginning this same adventure please keep something in mind, its a learning experience. The first, second or even third curriculum you choose may not work for your child. Be willing to change your method, you may also need something different for each child.

Here are a few places that I have used to make up our curriculum:
*Please note I am not affiliated with any of these or being compensated for sharing their information*

time4learning– We initially started with time4learning, and while I really liked it, my daughter however did not. This is a full curriculum, that can be used on a computer or tablet. As a parent you can control their lessons, view their grades, print worksheets and much more. My daughter (3rd grade) found it hard to actually grasp what they were teaching though, and they will continue to move on even if they don’t understand it. That was a downside for me.

Acellus- After switching to Acellus things became much smoother. We love this curriculum, they have actual teachers doing video lessons for each new concept. After choosing your 6 courses they will do a placement test so you know what grade level you need to begin at. I did also read it is possible to adjust your lessons, we however didn’t need to do this so I haven’t looked into this yet. With this program they do all the grading for you and it will let your kids know how many lessons they need to complete to stay on track.

teacherspayteachers-This is a great resource for worksheets, banners, busy work and much more. These have all been developed by teachers and are printable. Some of these are free and some have a small fee.

Christianbook.com- Quite a bit of our curriculum for next year was ordered from this website. We will also be homeschooling our boys next year mixing workbooks and online courses. There is several full curriculum’s available but its also possible to mix and match. They also have many other classroom resources available as well.  You can usually find free shipping coupons as well, and they regularly have sales.

Dollar Tree– Aside from a major money saving option, Dollar Tree has a large variety of options that work great for busy work. From math fact books to science and social studies lessons. They have classroom resources, school supplies, organization supplies, and the list goes on.

Pinterest-if you simply type in Homeschool, you are going to get a large list of things you can use. I’ve found planners, unit studies, posters, fun projects and much more. I find myself weekly looking for new things we can do on Pinterest.

What’s your favorite homeschooling resources? If you have any questions please feel free to ask, I will do my best to answer or point you in the right direction.

God Bless!

I failed my child

I’ve debated on whether or not I was going to share this, but at the same time I want to be honest and open with everyone. Then I came to the realization that there are others in my shoes as well, maybe I can learn from you. My daughter, age 8, was diagnosed with depression and anxiety yesterday. After exhausting every option I could think of over the last year, I decided to turn to our doctor for help and guidance. I myself have battled this over half of my life, likely longer but it wasn’t until I was in middle school I actually got help for this. I feel like I failed her, is there more I could have done? Did I not do something, am I not doing enough? Should I have gotten her help sooner?

She is a beautiful, intelligent, kind little girl with big dreams of Harvard someday. She isn’t one to ever be unkind to others, yet finds it hard to find friends. We try to reassure her that having one best friend is better than ten fake friends, but it still deeply hurts her when someone doesn’t want to be her friend or she feels like they don’t want to be. I’m just not sure how to help her or be there for her. If anyone has any suggestions or is in a similar situation please feel free to reach out to me, if you prefer to do it privately you an email me at familynfaithblog@gmail.com

Thanks for being my ear to listen today, God Bless!

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Food for the soul

When your hair can form icicles it is just too darn cold to do anything. I would rather crawl up with a book, blanket and coffee forgetting that the hair on my legs (hey its cold, cut me a break) could cut someone thanks to the goosebumps. When it’s cold there is always those foods that you instantly think of. For me its two things, Biscuits and gravy, or chili and cinnamon rolls.

Of course you can use canned biscuits but nothing is better than homemade. I’ll make sure you include a copy of the recipe I use at the bottom. Growing up I honestly thought everyone knew you eat cinnamon rolls with your chili. It wasn’t until  I was married and my in-laws from outside of Kansas pointed out that this actually wasn’t a well known thing.  Nothing is better than some chili with homemade cinnamon rolls, it warms you down to your soul.  Make your chili, if you need a recipe just say so I’ll send you mine,  add a little sour cream and shredded cheese on top. Take a bite of your chili, then a bite of your cinnamon roll. I promise you won’t regret it. You can even crock pot your chili so you can come home to a warm meal, if you don’t have a crock pot you really need to get one! Crock pot, cast iron skillet, and a coffee maker are three things I just couldn’t go without. My kitchen aid mixer isn’t far behind on that list though, homemade noodles are amazing.

Despite that I’m more of a baker than a cook, I do love being in the kitchen and making meals that will bring my family together. I’ve been tossing around sharing some of these recipes and even trying out recipes suggested to me. I would love to try out something new! I will warn you I am not a fish eater though, I have texture aversions and fish just don’t mix with that.  Now that I’m nice and hungry though I think I will be making another cup of coffee and making some cinnamon rolls and chili!

Stay warm and God Bless!

Just saying Hi….again

Over the last few months several realizations occurred to me. There was many things I wanted to change about myself or my life. So I began that process. For those that haven’t followed me from the beginning or know me from social media I wanted to introduce myself/ update where I am in life.


So this is me! My name is Ashley, I’m a 28 (almost 29) year old wife and mom. I met my husband 11 years ago in May, and March is our 9 year wedding anniversary. We have three beautiful children, our daughter is 8, and our twin sons are 5.  I was a cook for 6 years in a hospital and later high school before I became a mom. After having our daughter I stayed home with her making spare cash by crocheting and baking for others. I’ve always been very crafty and creative so I decided to take those passions and turn it into a business. The business has been a way to provide an income while still being available for my children and husband when needed. We’ve also used the business to help others as well, which is something that is so important to me. Goals are much bigger for this year and pray that it continues to grow. I feel like there is so much more I could probably say but I better be getting out the door to go get the kids from school.  So be watching for a follow up post, and feel free to introduce yourself!

God Bless!


After sending my children off to school in the morning, I usually take a few moments and enjoy a cup of coffee. Those with small children know what a luxury it is to actually enjoy a warm cup of coffee. Not one you’ve reheated several times already and it’s cold yet again. This morning as I sipped my coffee I began looking at my list of orders I currently have, supplies I need to order, and the cold medicine I need to take yet again. Now I’m not sure if it’s because my children have been taking turns being sick for weeks, that it hit me this time and I feel like I was hit by a bus, or that I’m just burnt out. I love my job, I truly do, but I feel like my passion is fading. Part of why I’ve loved my job is because it was something different every day, I could be creative. Here lately though I seem to have lost that spark. The weather changing has caused road blocks at every turn, I can’t paint or it’s too cold and things are setting up correctly. My computer isn’t acting right and my software continues to shut down every few minutes. It’s difficult to not become discouraged when it seems like everything is going wrong. It would be quite easy to just give up and move on. But instead I am going to take my medicine, jump in a hot shower to so I can breathe, then I am going to hand it all over to God because I know he will guide me in what I need to do. I’m going to work the next couple of hours while my kids are in school, this afternoon spend some time trying to repair my computer, and this weekend I will get all the things prepared that I need to so that I can have a productive and good work week next week. Instead of throwing in the towel, I’m going to find a way to renew my passion. I know it is in there, I just need to have faith.

So tell me, how do you keep from being burnt out?

You Are Precious

So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.-(Genesis 1:27) This scripture is one that most of us heard growing up. Taught often in bible school and I’m sure we’ve heard a few sermons on it as well. Even as a young girl this began the questioning of what my value is as a woman. What is my purpose? What is Gods big plan for me? Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman’ because she was take from ‘man.'” This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united as one.-(Genesis 2:22-24) Now, I don’t know about you but for me this points out that women are valuable and have a great purpose. So often I hear that a woman’s purpose was for marriage, and while that is correct, that isn’t her sole purpose. She was made to serve her husband and God, but don’t forget that she was made also as someone to walk beside man in life’s battles. They are to watch each others back and support one another. You are a team, made for each other, both valuable. God has a wonderful purpose for us all. Even if you aren’t married there is still purpose for you.

God has a very high calling for women, we are very influential not only in our own home and family, but in other areas of the world as well. The way we carry ourselves impacts everyone we come in contact with. Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.-(Proverbs 31:10) I know as a wife I have wondered can I do better? Am I being the wife my husband needs and God wants me to be? Am I that virtuous and capable wife? In all honesty, I know there are areas I can improve on. It can be overwhelming looking at the standards of a biblical wife such as Proverbs 31, she sounds like perfection. It would be really easy to close the book and say well I’m trying so that’s all that matters. When in actuality we could sit down and have a one on one with God, ask him for guidance.  Don’t look at it as admitting defeat, look at it as self-improvement, giving glory to God and doing his work.

For the grace of God has been revealed, bringing salvation to all people. And we are instructed to turn from godless living and sinful pleasures. We should live in this evil world with wisdom, righteousness, and devotion to God, while we look forward with hope to that wonderful day when the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, will be revealed. He gave his life to free us from every kind of sin, to cleanse us, and to make us his very own people, totally committed to doing good deeds.-(Titus 2:11-15) I don’t know about you but asking God to help me become a better biblical woman and living a life for him giving him the glory, helping show others how wonderful it is to walk with him, that seems like a pretty valuable calling. I will continue to ask God to guide me as a wife and mother, but also as a woman. Fully put my trust in him that he is walking with me on this journey, that he can use me for his purpose, to fill his calling. We as women have such an impact on those in our lives, lets ask God to help guide us so we live life with wisdom, righteousness and devotion to God.

May God bless you on your journey!


A New Direction

Here recently I felt the need to dig into what it truly means to be a biblical wife/mother. Everyday I’ve found new scripture, books, studies, ect. You name it I’ve come across it lately. One verse has really stuck out to me and felt like it was leading me in a new direction. These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children.- (Titus 2:4)  I do feel like we need to share experiences and help guide each other. Our culture today has turned being a submissive biblical wife into something it is not. So I have felt the need to share my journey into becoming a more biblical wife and mother. If I can help even one other woman feel more confident as a wife and mother then it is all worth it. So make sure you follow me so you can see my new post, and feel free to comment, ask questions, let me know how I can help you, anything.   So for today I will cut this short and begin planning a few more post.

God Bless and I’m so happy you’ve chosen to go on this journey with me!

New Seasons

This morning I’m sitting here with my coffee running over everything that needs to be done today. I have a full work load currently, plus volunteering at the school, and I have a long list of things that need to be done around the house. I would usually stress and end up with a migraine leading me to even more stress because I can’t get anything done. Thanks to colder weather moving in I’m also moving much slower because my illness and cold do not get along. Instead I’m doing what I can, while trying not to overdo it and leave myself unable to move. I’ve come to the point that my housework will always be there so there is no need to rush. With my work things can honestly go so fast anyways, I can’t speed it up any. So, I do what I can in the morning and if I can add to it a few hours later I do, if not I finish what I need to around the house. I think one thing that most of us can agree upon is that at different times in our lives we have sent up that prayer asking for guidance. What am I to do in this new season of life? Do I stay at this job?  Am I being a good Wife? Am I being a good parent? Am I on the track you have for me?

The new season in life my husband and I recently entered led me to ask these same questions.  It also led me to begin more concentrated studies over being a biblical woman and wife. I’m working on trying to turn those into a series of post. Then my plan is to dig deeper into raising children in society today. Neither of these tasks are ones that should be rushed through, I’m going through the bible, finding different bible studies and books on these. I will likely share bits and pieces along the way and post about topics when I’m led to post.  I strongly feel that you need to surround yourself with good mentors. Whether you are single, married, or have kids are you surrounding with others that show that good biblical character? Those people that you can just tell they walk with Christ? Lately I’ve done a lot of evaluating on myself, asking myself those same questions. It’s never fun to consider areas that you need to improve, and you will never be perfect, that’s just a fact. You can however ask for guidance, pray on it. Be open and communicate that you need help in these areas. Lean on your mentors, I’m sure they would be happy to speak with you and guide you. I know several ladies come to mind when I think of really good mentors, these ladies would also be there to speak with any time and help me grow spiritually. I know one area I need to work on is submission (I will dive into this topic at a different time), and boy is that a challenge for me. I’m a very stubborn person and one that naturally likes to take control. Now that our children are all in school, I work from home so I do have some flexibility in my schedule. After the kids are dropped off, I usually work first, begin cleaning, then sit down and have my study time. I journal a daily scripture plan every day, read the bible (my goal is the entire bible in 90 days), my daily devotionals, catch up for Sunday school in I need to, and read some of my current lifestyle book. Right now, I’m reading The Resolutions for Women, which I encourage all women to read, there is a men’s book also. I’m not saying you must spend hours every day studying the word, but make sure you set aside some time to spend with Christ. You will be amazed at the difference it will make in your life.

Before I close I want to leave you with this. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the lord is to be praised.- Proverbs 31:30

God Bless

Warrior….not worrier

This Saturday I have a craft show coming up. I signed up for this months ago thinking, I will have plenty of time to be prepared. You paint this picture in your head of what you think it should be like, only for the day to come and it’s nothing like you imagined. When I booked this show, my business was in the beginning stages. I had some down time because word hadn’t spread yet. A few weeks in I evaluated my business and realized what my sellers were and what I needed to put on the back burner for a while. My cups and t-shirts suddenly took off.  I have a list two pages long of orders almost constantly, as soon as I get caught up I’m contacted about more. I’ve begun doing them for large groups and businesses to advertise as well. So over the last few weeks I’ve extra items in here and there trying to at least be able to have a tables worth to bring to my show.

Do I have anywhere near what I wanted to for the show? No. Am I okay with that? At first, No. Sunday’s sermon really hit me though, it is not our place to worry about thing.  We are to turn it over to God and then move on. Those that know me know this isn’t an easy task for me. I have anxiety, and am a natural worrier. So I turned to my best friend of course, my husband, and he reminded me everything will be fine. Sure I only have half the stuff done I wanted to but what’s the worst that could happen? I could sell out and take custom orders instead? Use that time to continue handing out business cards or show other vendors how I could help advertise for them? Spread the word about my faith based business. In the end I have to remember that God put this business in my heart, and he will bring me through this. So today I will praise God for only having half of what I wanted there this weekend because I have been blessed with a business that stays busy. A business that has provided me the opportunity to be a stay at home wife and mother. I can work while my children are in school, on days I have to wait for things to dry I can go see my husband at his work for a few hours. My afternoons, weekends and holidays are free. I’m also helping to provide for my family.

It’s not always to turn our worries over to God, but we have to remember we are not alone. He will bring you through all of life’s storms if you just turn to him. We praise him in the good times and the bad, because he won’t ever leave our side.

God Bless!

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