After sending my children off to school in the morning, I usually take a few moments and enjoy a cup of coffee. Those with small children know what a luxury it is to actually enjoy a warm cup of coffee. Not one you’ve reheated several times already and it’s cold yet again. This morning as I sipped my coffee I began looking at my list of orders I currently have, supplies I need to order, and the cold medicine I need to take yet again. Now I’m not sure if it’s because my children have been taking turns being sick for weeks, that it hit me this time and I feel like I was hit by a bus, or that I’m just burnt out. I love my job, I truly do, but I feel like my passion is fading. Part of why I’ve loved my job is because it was something different every day, I could be creative. Here lately though I seem to have lost that spark. The weather changing has caused road blocks at every turn, I can’t paint or it’s too cold and things are setting up correctly. My computer isn’t acting right and my software continues to shut down every few minutes. It’s difficult to not become discouraged when it seems like everything is going wrong. It would be quite easy to just give up and move on. But instead I am going to take my medicine, jump in a hot shower to so I can breathe, then I am going to hand it all over to God because I know he will guide me in what I need to do. I’m going to work the next couple of hours while my kids are in school, this afternoon spend some time trying to repair my computer, and this weekend I will get all the things prepared that I need to so that I can have a productive and good work week next week. Instead of throwing in the towel, I’m going to find a way to renew my passion. I know it is in there, I just need to have faith.
So tell me, how do you keep from being burnt out?
So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.-(Genesis 1:27) This scripture is one that most of us heard growing up. Taught often in bible school and I’m sure we’ve heard a few sermons on it as well. Even as a young girl this began the questioning of what my value is as a woman. What is my purpose? What is Gods big plan for me? Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman’ because she was take from ‘man.'” This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united as one.-(Genesis 2:22-24) Now, I don’t know about you but for me this points out that women are valuable and have a great purpose. So often I hear that a woman’s purpose was for marriage, and while that is correct, that isn’t her sole purpose. She was made to serve her husband and God, but don’t forget that she was made also as someone to walk beside man in life’s battles. They are to watch each others back and support one another. You are a team, made for each other, both valuable. God has a wonderful purpose for us all. Even if you aren’t married there is still purpose for you.
God has a very high calling for women, we are very influential not only in our own home and family, but in other areas of the world as well. The way we carry ourselves impacts everyone we come in contact with. Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.-(Proverbs 31:10) I know as a wife I have wondered can I do better? Am I being the wife my husband needs and God wants me to be? Am I that virtuous and capable wife? In all honesty, I know there are areas I can improve on. It can be overwhelming looking at the standards of a biblical wife such as Proverbs 31, she sounds like perfection. It would be really easy to close the book and say well I’m trying so that’s all that matters. When in actuality we could sit down and have a one on one with God, ask him for guidance. Don’t look at it as admitting defeat, look at it as self-improvement, giving glory to God and doing his work.
For the grace of God has been revealed, bringing salvation to all people. And we are instructed to turn from godless living and sinful pleasures. We should live in this evil world with wisdom, righteousness, and devotion to God, while we look forward with hope to that wonderful day when the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, will be revealed. He gave his life to free us from every kind of sin, to cleanse us, and to make us his very own people, totally committed to doing good deeds.-(Titus 2:11-15) I don’t know about you but asking God to help me become a better biblical woman and living a life for him giving him the glory, helping show others how wonderful it is to walk with him, that seems like a pretty valuable calling. I will continue to ask God to guide me as a wife and mother, but also as a woman. Fully put my trust in him that he is walking with me on this journey, that he can use me for his purpose, to fill his calling. We as women have such an impact on those in our lives, lets ask God to help guide us so we live life with wisdom, righteousness and devotion to God.
May God bless you on your journey!
Here recently I felt the need to dig into what it truly means to be a biblical wife/mother. Everyday I’ve found new scripture, books, studies, ect. You name it I’ve come across it lately. One verse has really stuck out to me and felt like it was leading me in a new direction. These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children.- (Titus 2:4) I do feel like we need to share experiences and help guide each other. Our culture today has turned being a submissive biblical wife into something it is not. So I have felt the need to share my journey into becoming a more biblical wife and mother. If I can help even one other woman feel more confident as a wife and mother then it is all worth it. So make sure you follow me so you can see my new post, and feel free to comment, ask questions, let me know how I can help you, anything. So for today I will cut this short and begin planning a few more post.
God Bless and I’m so happy you’ve chosen to go on this journey with me!
This morning I’m sitting here with my coffee running over everything that needs to be done today. I have a full work load currently, plus volunteering at the school, and I have a long list of things that need to be done around the house. I would usually stress and end up with a migraine leading me to even more stress because I can’t get anything done. Thanks to colder weather moving in I’m also moving much slower because my illness and cold do not get along. Instead I’m doing what I can, while trying not to overdo it and leave myself unable to move. I’ve come to the point that my housework will always be there so there is no need to rush. With my work things can honestly go so fast anyways, I can’t speed it up any. So, I do what I can in the morning and if I can add to it a few hours later I do, if not I finish what I need to around the house. I think one thing that most of us can agree upon is that at different times in our lives we have sent up that prayer asking for guidance. What am I to do in this new season of life? Do I stay at this job? Am I being a good Wife? Am I being a good parent? Am I on the track you have for me?
The new season in life my husband and I recently entered led me to ask these same questions. It also led me to begin more concentrated studies over being a biblical woman and wife. I’m working on trying to turn those into a series of post. Then my plan is to dig deeper into raising children in society today. Neither of these tasks are ones that should be rushed through, I’m going through the bible, finding different bible studies and books on these. I will likely share bits and pieces along the way and post about topics when I’m led to post. I strongly feel that you need to surround yourself with good mentors. Whether you are single, married, or have kids are you surrounding with others that show that good biblical character? Those people that you can just tell they walk with Christ? Lately I’ve done a lot of evaluating on myself, asking myself those same questions. It’s never fun to consider areas that you need to improve, and you will never be perfect, that’s just a fact. You can however ask for guidance, pray on it. Be open and communicate that you need help in these areas. Lean on your mentors, I’m sure they would be happy to speak with you and guide you. I know several ladies come to mind when I think of really good mentors, these ladies would also be there to speak with any time and help me grow spiritually. I know one area I need to work on is submission (I will dive into this topic at a different time), and boy is that a challenge for me. I’m a very stubborn person and one that naturally likes to take control. Now that our children are all in school, I work from home so I do have some flexibility in my schedule. After the kids are dropped off, I usually work first, begin cleaning, then sit down and have my study time. I journal a daily scripture plan every day, read the bible (my goal is the entire bible in 90 days), my daily devotionals, catch up for Sunday school in I need to, and read some of my current lifestyle book. Right now, I’m reading The Resolutions for Women, which I encourage all women to read, there is a men’s book also. I’m not saying you must spend hours every day studying the word, but make sure you set aside some time to spend with Christ. You will be amazed at the difference it will make in your life.
Before I close I want to leave you with this. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the lord is to be praised.- Proverbs 31:30
This Saturday I have a craft show coming up. I signed up for this months ago thinking, I will have plenty of time to be prepared. You paint this picture in your head of what you think it should be like, only for the day to come and it’s nothing like you imagined. When I booked this show, my business was in the beginning stages. I had some down time because word hadn’t spread yet. A few weeks in I evaluated my business and realized what my sellers were and what I needed to put on the back burner for a while. My cups and t-shirts suddenly took off. I have a list two pages long of orders almost constantly, as soon as I get caught up I’m contacted about more. I’ve begun doing them for large groups and businesses to advertise as well. So over the last few weeks I’ve extra items in here and there trying to at least be able to have a tables worth to bring to my show.
Do I have anywhere near what I wanted to for the show? No. Am I okay with that? At first, No. Sunday’s sermon really hit me though, it is not our place to worry about thing. We are to turn it over to God and then move on. Those that know me know this isn’t an easy task for me. I have anxiety, and am a natural worrier. So I turned to my best friend of course, my husband, and he reminded me everything will be fine. Sure I only have half the stuff done I wanted to but what’s the worst that could happen? I could sell out and take custom orders instead? Use that time to continue handing out business cards or show other vendors how I could help advertise for them? Spread the word about my faith based business. In the end I have to remember that God put this business in my heart, and he will bring me through this. So today I will praise God for only having half of what I wanted there this weekend because I have been blessed with a business that stays busy. A business that has provided me the opportunity to be a stay at home wife and mother. I can work while my children are in school, on days I have to wait for things to dry I can go see my husband at his work for a few hours. My afternoons, weekends and holidays are free. I’m also helping to provide for my family.
It’s not always to turn our worries over to God, but we have to remember we are not alone. He will bring you through all of life’s storms if you just turn to him. We praise him in the good times and the bad, because he won’t ever leave our side.
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I sat here staring at this screen for far too long today, trying to decide what direction I was going to go in. Same thing happens when I try to write a prayer for my family today. I know the general direction I want to go with it, but the actual journey just isn’t happening for me at the moment. I could take the easy way and just say forget it and walk away for the day. How how easy that would be, I could just go read a book or watch some tv. But I’m also leaving a crack open so Satan himself can slip in and much like this fly that keeps bouncing off my face, he is relentless and is waiting for that moment. Instead I reached out to someone, she’s also my accountability person. Did I do my daily writing, did I finish the daily bible reading (we are doing a 52 week plan to read the bible, so you don’t want to fall behind).
It’s important to surround yourself with people who support your journey with Christ. Who will battle with you when you need it and you will go to battle for. When my office moved downstairs much of my “War Room” didn’t make the journey. Leaving a desk upstairs in the corner that became a catch all. Yesterday, I decided it was time to take my War Room, or corner in my case, back. It’s time to fill my desk and wall back up with my battle plan. I encourage everyone to do this, even if you don’t have an entire room to set aside for this. Find a area that you can comfortably sit and spend time with God, clear out any distractions. Turn off the tv, your phone, social media. Focus and meditate on what God is trying to tell you. If you need help getting started or you need a little help during your journey, call out to that accountability partner. We should all be supporting and helping each other. If you don’t have someone you can reach out to please feel free to contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org anytime. I’m always happy to help.
Honestly when I sat down to write tonight I wasn’t sure what I was going to write about. So I did what I often do when I’m at a crossroads. I pull out my devotionals and unwind first. Usually, inspiration then strikes. Just like it has tonight. Growing up we often dream of our future. You know, that one where you have the perfect house, perfect job, perfect family. It isn’t until you are much older and wiser that you realize that those perfect things you wanted, they take a lot of work. That perfect relationship started out like a fairy tale. Throw in a stressful career, a few kids, medical problems, and the day to day stresses…. You then end up wondering where that fairy tale went. It’s nothing like you dreamed about, frankly it’s much more chaotic and stressful.
After a while it takes a toll on the relationship. You begin wondering where things changed. Sometimes you need to take time to recharge and rekindle things. You need to be open and honest about your feelings, and an effort has to be made to bring back that fairy tale. The truth is, love is work. It’s messy and frustrating sometimes, but it’s also a beautiful thing. In two days I celebrate 8 years of marriage (10 years together) with an amazing man. A man that works hard every single day to make sure our family has everything we need. Things aren’t always rainbows and butterflies, honestly at times it’s been tough. But I’ve also realized that I wouldn’t want to go through life without him. Recently my brother told me that he looks at my marriage and hopes to be as lucky as I am, his goal is to have a love like I do. That meant a lot to me. We came from a broken home, and unfortunately I went through parents divorcing more than once. So for me to be that role model for my brother was an honor. It also reminded me how much your parents relationship changes your views on relationships. I want my children to see firsthand what love is. I have been very blessed with my husband. He’s been there through my medical issues, gotten me through some tough family issues, and was by my side as we watched our twins struggle because they were born 9 weeks early. So before I close I want to tell my husband: I love you and thank you for sticking by my side even through the darkest of days.
Eventually everyone has a sink or swim moment in their life. That point that they feel like they can only be sucked under so many times before they drown. Last week was that time for me, not the first time but one of those times. It’s been a rough few months and I am someone that needs to be physically comforted. I need that hug to feel like I will be okay. My primary focus is my family, that is my job. I make sure they have food to eat, clean clothes to wear and a somewhat organized home. How organized can you really be with two four year olds though? I do my best 24/7 to be there for them, support them and comfort them when needed. Yet it feels like I fight my battles completely alone. Now I realize this isn’t true, I’m not truly ever alone. I always turn to my faith and pray, and eventually I do get through it. Sometimes though, a hug saying I care would be nice. Some days you just really need someone to talk to and some days you just need time alone. I would love to be able to go get my nails done or even shop for new bedding by myself. Where I can actually concentrate on what I’m doing there and not break up arguing and calm down a tantrum. Can I just be me for a minute? Not mom, maid, cook, referee, chauffeur and frankly exhausted…..
I realize the chance of that actually happening is pretty much zero, so instead I will sit here with my coffee and day dream about a few months from now when all three of my children will be in school and I can actually clean house and work without chaos. Honestly it sounds as good as a beach and a cocktail right now.
Have you ever had those days when you wake up and everything irritates you beyond comprehension? You can look at your foot and instantly you just hate your foot? This is one of those mornings for me. I’m tired, I’m crabby, and everything is just irritating. When you get to that point of being so overwhelmed you want to scream though, you just want to snap. As much as I really need some me time to blow off some steam, I know this won’t be happening. I love my family, I do. But I am around them 24/7 , caring for them around the clock. Grocery shopping alone should not feel like a trip to the Bahamas, and getting to go to the Post office alone shouldn’t be considered a vacation. But it is…because I don’t even get to use the bathroom alone. I think every mom gets to this point at times. It’s normal, doesn’t make it easier though.
Truthfully, I’m not sure how I will deal with it today. A movie and wine at midnight when all the kids have finally fallen asleep, I’ve picked up the living room and finally get to sit down just doesn’t seem too appealing tonight. So my question for you all….how do you relax? What’s your go to that keeps you sane?
I guess until I figure it out though, I will go back to ending arguments and finishing my coffee.
What is your battle plan? Do you just roll over and get stressed out hoping for the best? For many years, this was my go to. It wasn’t until I turned my life back to Christ that I started praying and having faith that he will see me through it. But even then I just kind of prayed the same ol’ God please help me. Through the power of Christ you can do great things, you just need to know him. Not just know of him, truly know him. How much time do you devote everyday to getting closer to Christ?
Since I have devoted the time everyday to reading his word, really praying, and building my relationship with Christ, things have shifted in not only me but my home was well. I began hanging scripture and prayer reminders up so I can see them frequently. I even have prayers for different areas of my life taped in my car, written in my planner, and taped to the bathroom mirror. I also purchased FerVent and The Battle Plan For Prayer, both of these I hope to be writting a review on soon. I have atleast a dozen new books I’ve recently ordered, most are christian lifestyle, and I am trying hard not to dive into all of them at once. So I do promise more reviews here soon, since I have taken on a few other things with the Blog I haven’t been reading as much. But since my wonderful husband upgraded my Laptop and I now have the programming needed to do everything for the page I can work faster and more effecient. (Thank you Baby) I quickly found that the more I worked on my relationship with Christ, the more the Holy Spirit became present in my life. We seek Christ as a family now, because it is our job as parents to be the main spiritual leaders for our children. I urge you to seek the Lord, and if you would like recommendations for wonderful Christian Living reads I am happy to help.
Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. -James 1:22