Wine and Water

After being married a while you start to fall into a routine. Throw children into that mix and you get a chaotic routine. It’s easy to forget that marriage isn’t a fairy tale. Your husband isn’t Prince Charming, cute animals don’t do your housework (despite how nice that would be), and sometimes you forget when you showered last. Marriage is a choice. It is a choice you make every single day when you wake up. As a mom of three small children I know it becomes very easy to put your children before everything else. You slip easily into the routine of taking care of everyone else. It isn’t until your marriage is in trouble and you feel disconnected that you realize it’s time to take a step back.
I’m not saying you still cannot take care of your family, but you need to make sure to make time for you. You also need to make sure you make time for your spouse as well. One day your children will be grown and move away, if you lose that relationship with your spouse how will you make it when it’s just the two of you again? My alone time is nothing fancy, and sometimes it’s just a few minutes, but it’s time for me to reflect. Some days its just having a cup of coffee (or tea like I am now) in peace, others times it’s completing my daily bible study.
My husband and I recently started date nights again. We’ve been together almost a decade now, but after having children we started disconnecting. If we aren’t able to leave the house for a night, we do something at home. Try a game night or movie night. Once a month we try a new wine we haven’t before. Sometimes we grab our glasses and watch a new movie, other times we enjoy time out by the fire pit. Then there is times the wine taste absolutely terrible and we end up laughing at the funny faces, other times well, it goes down like water. Don’t let your spouse get left in the dust from the chaos of everyday life, it doesn’t have to be anything fancy, just make sure its quality time together.